RP. Online identity. Skinny elves.
Roleplaying and me – not a love story
I don’t understand RP.
I can see RP as a form of creative writing; getting into a character’s head is probably very useful for authors and doing it with a “real” avatar might be easier. That being said, despite being a book lover, I find in-character blog posts utterly boring. I honestly tried to read a few and didn’t last past the first paragraph. Why would I want to know what your undead priest did yesterday? (Yes, I know it’s somewhat of a contradiction, given how I apparently do care what the real person behind the priest did in last week’s raid.) The only sort-of-RP stories I’ve enjoyed were Tam’s Gerald posts, but that’s only because he’s funny.

My priest on Defias Brotherhood RP-PvP
On the other hand, in-game RP is fascinating… from a voyeuristic point of view. I have characters on two RP servers and seeing RP is interesting, it’s experiencing a completely different side of WoW, even though that side isn’t for me. However, I found RPers quite unwelcoming, despite being told the opposite. I ended up on my first RP server because I had RL friends there, so I posted on the realm forums asking for a leveling guild that doesn’t require RP. Cue 20 posts telling me to gtfo back to my server and stop ruining their fun. Needless to say, I had an appropriate name, knew the rules and wasn’t in the least interested in griefing… but hey, better flame, then ask! Then came the Too Many Annas ‘incident’ and the throngs of RP ‘defenders’ coming down on one person who didn’t know better… yep, friendly folk.
In conclusion, so far RP servers seem just the same as normal servers: idiots and nice people alike. And the spelling? No, people on RP servers aren’t better at that, no matter how much I wish it were true.
As for RP itself, I have trouble understanding why someone would want to become someone else. I can find rational explanations, of course, from depression to a desire to explore one’s hidden sides, but I never had any sort of impulse to do that. It probably has a lot to do with my reasons for playing the game: it’s less about the lore and the fantasy setting and more about the social side. When I meet people, I want to meet Billy or Mary, not Ghortok the orc or Xxbelfgirlxx. How can a connection with a fictional character mean anything? If it’s just a different form of fiction, why wouldn’t I just read a book? The odds of finding a good writer are higher than finding a good RPer, and then I’d be able to lose myself in the story without having to interact with anyone. (Antisocial? Maybe.)
My green haired night elf
So we get to something I’ve thinking about for a long time: racial choices. My first character was a human and I tried to make her look as similar as possible to me (oh, the sad day I discovered I can’t have the proper ponytail). It took me a year to consider making something non-human; they all seemed so alien and not-me.

I don’t RP, but I still like pretty clothes.
Since then, my preferences have changed: human aside, I have two level 80 draenei, one night elf, and my following 80s will be a night elf and a draenei. On the Alliance side, I might level a gnome to 80 at some point (my rogue is cute as a button, but I just can’t make myself like that class), and if I ever went Horde I’d have a collection of blood elves and maybe a tauren and an undead. I refuse to play other races – I find dwarves ugly and/or boring, while trolls and orcs are just plain horrible (yes, even the ‘nice’ faces). I keep reading about people who love their ’sexy orcs’ and it boggles the mind: how can someone think that horrible green scowling Hulk can be pretty?! Sorry orc lovers.
But why?
Today, this post from Pilf got me thinking. Why do I play the classes I do? It got me thinking so much it got out of hand and I decided to make a post instead of a huge comment.
And I think the real explanation finally occured to me: I play those classes (and always female) because I find them visually appealing (sexy, pretty, nice, cute… etc) and that’s how I want the real me to be seen. I want to be a pretty girl in real life, so I want to project that in the game world too; I assume that people who play ‘ugly’ characters do it in a more RP-ish way (the characters have their own personality, so their appearance doesn’t reflect on the ‘owner’). I doubt my preference for pretty characters comes from some massive feeling of not being good enough: I’m a fairly standard European woman and I’m generally OK with my looks. Of course, I’d change things if I could (wouldn’t anyone?), but I don’t see anything majorly wrong with me.
Instead, I think WoW is a perfect playground for dress up and a distorted mirror to see a “virtual Jen” closer to the “real Jen” I’d like to be. I get to play hot girls and dress them up in pretty robes (the only thing I hate about heirlooms is the way my clothies never get to wear pretty things). I get to stare at my elf’s boobs in raids (they’re better than mine, but hey, I’m happy with virtual ones). I get to change her hair and tattoos once a week, even though I’ve had the same haircut for 10 years in real life and I generally can’t be arsed wearing make up. I get to talk about virtual fashion with friends I can’t see IRL.
Is there a conclusion to this? Probably not, but I’m interested in other opinions on the subject. Please keep in mind that, even though I’m personally not interested in RP or in-character blogs, that doesn’t mean they suck and need to disappear. No flames please, kthx.
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June 1st, 2010
I don’t know much about RP as it is done on dedicated servers, but I know that all my characters from WoW (I have deep roots in several other RPGs) need to be part of a story, to have some sort of a background that I make up, and because of that my chars do what they do.
One example is that my main char, Sephala (rogue), “hates guns”, so she never uses guns.
Ok, I have the skill if I need an awsome gun for stats, but the skill is still 1. :) (you can check the armory)
Some of my chars have a specific profession, a costume/item, haircut, etc and all this adds to character depth as I see it. I.e. my gnome mage is bald. I don’t care if others know what is intentional and what is not, it matters that I know, so I made up all this similar to the way I was playing with building blocks and LEGO when I was a kid. Everything had to have a story.
I like to join a RP event or conversation, but I couldn’t behave like that all the time because I like to play games inside games, so to me RP is like a mini-game inside the biger game that is WoW. Costumes are a great way to RP, and because of that I have lots of costumes on all my chars, even my bank char has 2-3 (good) costumes (the actual one copies the looks of Dalaran npcs in great detail). Unfortunately WoW isn’t very good at disguises, and fun stuff like that. Lots of costumes require alot of effort to gather/create, and there are very other few fun items – flowers, torches, hats, etc.
June 1st, 2010
I always thought I Gerald was parody rather than RP but maybe that’s just me trying to deceive myself ;) Also it’s not like I have a kobold custom hanging up my wardrobe… at least, not last time I checked.
I generally don’t do the RP thing – although I’m mentally supportive of it. I don’t think I choose my characters for RP purposes as such but I think I like characters who, errr, look like characters – I mean, so I know who they are when I’m playing them.
I suppose that’s a bit of a peculiar distinction to make.
June 1st, 2010
Well, I don’t know. It’s not like I know much about RP, and ‘people writing from the perspective of their characters or maybe a mob’ sounded too long.
I think I know what you mean about your characters… or at least something similar. I like to choose distinct names for them, I don’t like the Jentank, Jenmage, Jenpewpew style of naming (despite having 2 characters called Jen, yes; I’d name change my warrior but by now I’m attack to the silly name).
June 1st, 2010
Oh look, my theme has threaded comments too oO
June 1st, 2010
Yes, same here with the names, they have to be “fantasy” themed, even though there are lots of fun names to be had. Like this one I heard for a druid – Shifthappens :))
June 1st, 2010
I love the tauren names :D We’ve got Udderchaos on Alonsus, and I saw a lot of good ones I can’t remember now. Moo!
June 1st, 2010
For the longest time, I only made “pretty” characters and characters that represented me in a variety of ways (they always have black hair like mine, my Blood Elf has the “pissed off” face I probably have, hairstyles are ones I would wear, skin colors similar) and I enjoyed it because it was a cuter/prettier/sexier representation of myself and it was how I wanted other people to see me.
Since then I’ve let go of the rigid “like me” way of rolling and broadened my horizons a bit and rolled from a semi-RP standpoint. For example, my Troll shaman doesn’t have the “nice/pretty” face because she would have looked so vapid. She instead has what many would consider the ugly face, but is perhaps more appropriate for a seasoned Troll (as she will be after she finishes Northrend). Plus, I enjoy that she gets to have a hot pink mohawk… I could never pull that off IRL.
I was also like you about Orcs – I couldn’t imagine why ANYONE would want to play something that looked so male. But, we find points of interest in the oddest places. Someone on w_l posted this video of their Orc dancing to music that was really just about the unfortunate banner/dance combo, but the dacne and music made the Orc seem so fun that it changed them for me (in a good way).
June 2nd, 2010
It was kinda like that with me and tauren :D I saw a really nice illustration of a tauren girl on Wowhead and I went all ‘awwwww I want one’ <3
June 2nd, 2010
Hey Jen
Thanks for the linky-love :) I’m flattered that something that started off as an idle discussion with a guildie has turned into something people have written about!
On a more prosaic note – AVOID the 3 most recent blog posts – I don’t want you faceplanting into your keyboard :) (meant in complete jest, sometimes text based medium fails and I refuse to add ‘lol’ to the end of a sentence to emphasise that I’m joking!)
I’m not sure quite how I went from writing about the ‘me’ behind the screen to writing about Pilf but I know that it gives me a challenge – having never been remotely interested in ‘creative’ writing until recently it’s proving to be fun. Especially when 95% of the time the scenarios I write involve a great deal of social contact with other players to make them happen. I guess for me it’s another way od adding ‘depth’ to my play time but I can totally understand why it isn’t for everyone. I feel _exactly_ the same about PvP servers, my (limited) time there had me running back to carebear PvE faster than you could blink!
Pilf x
June 2nd, 2010
Oh I know what you mean about PvP servers. My druid was on one for ~30 levels and OMG did going back to PvE feel good. It’s ok now, with dungeon finder, but I still wouldn’t ever leave my PvE home for another. The only redeeming quality of PvP servers are the few people who don’t gank the opposing faction on sight…
June 2nd, 2010
I’ve never understood the appeal of RP. I think maybe I’m just not creative enough. I have no ability or desire to create a story for my characters. I don’t see my toons as individuals. They’re all just avatars of me.
Generally, when I create a chacter in a game with an extensive character creation system (Dragon Age, Mass Effect), I try to make it look like me. In WoW, the options just aren’t there, so I simply make characters who I find visually appealing.
June 2nd, 2010
I had always been interested in getting into the RP aspect of WoW, not full time, but just to experience it, a game within a game like Sirg mentioned. I started on one of the few RPPVP servers with some RL friends, and leveled many characters there, but never did I come across anyone who was actually RPing! Eventually I transferred away from that server, but I’ve always been disappointed that there are these RP servers out there, but RPing seems so rare! Trade chat is filled with Chuck Norris jokes and RL discussions just like everywhere else, so it makes it seem like – what’s the point? Maybe if everyone on RP servers actually RPed (though I think that’d be pretty impossible to moderate) RPing would be easier to get into and more enjoyable! (I was a big D&Der when I was younger though, so maybe that’s just me wishing WoW was a bit more like that…) Lol.
Oh, and I agree about the Orc/Dwarf females! Anytime I see one running around I’m always like “why?” hehe. These days almost all my characters are Blood Elves.
June 3rd, 2010
For what it’s worth (not sure if you’re EU or US), I’ve seen RP going on on Argent Dawn-EU. I wasn’t looking for it, but I ran into people RP-ing in Silvermoon. And it wasn’t *that* kind of RP.
June 4th, 2010
The extent of my RP has only ever reached creating a very basic back story for my characters. All my characters talk the same, my method of playing and interaction doesn’t change just because the character has… but at the same time, I don’t see any of my characters as being me. They’re just avatars I happen to control, and I wouldn’t go so far as to say that I see myself as any of them.
June 10th, 2010
I’m an RP person. I figure I’ll shed some light on a couple of your points.
From my experience, RP people tend not to be overly friendly because they’ve been flamed and harassed many times by non-RP people. This isn’t a good excuse, and it really bothers me when people act elitist, as they did to you. The only thing I can say is that it becomes more and more difficult to RP when the server gains more people who don’t RP. Instead of being able to walk up to someone and react to them in character, you have to wonder if you’re going to get mocked for doing so. I’m sure the opinion of many who RP is that there are only a few realms that are designated for RP and many many normal PvE realms, so if you’re going to roll on an RP realm, you should have an interest in maintaining the atmosphere that is, in truth, very fragile. But no, being rude about a pretty innocent question isn’t the best way to foster an understanding between the RP groups and the non-RP groups.
Now. As for your statement “How can a connection with a fictional character mean anything?” From my experience, it’s not just about the connection with the fictional character. I’ve been involved with some pretty awesome RP with another player for over a year. And while I think that the friendship between our characters is great and I think it’s fun to see them together, the most satisfying part of RP to me is the collaboration of storytelling that takes place. The other player and I bounce ideas off each other and write stories together which is really fun. I’ve always enjoyed writing, and having a partner to tell a story with makes it all the more fun.
But what’s important to note here is that beyond all of that creative stuff, the other player and I are actually friends and we talk about both in game non-RP stuff (we’re the healing team for one of the 10 man groups my guild has) and about real world stuff that’s not in any way connected to WoW. While we met through RP, I certainly don’t view her as being her characters. So the connection that exists is more about two creative people who like telling stories together than about the characters themselves.
June 10th, 2010
Thanks for the comment! That did clear up a couple of things.
I can understand why RPers on RP servers would feel threatened and I agree with them – I wouldn’t be on an RP server if it wasn’t for RL friends (and my main server will always be PVE). What I didn’t agree with was the manner of expressing themselves… but I’m glad to see it was just the forum trolls coming out to feed.
As for RP itself, I guess I imagined it a bit differently, or at least only saw part of it, i.e. randomly RPing with someone you happened to run into. I never saw this as a complicated process of writing a story… (possibly because I’m really not creative at all.) Creating a story with a friend sounds like fun!
June 12th, 2010
Glad to help. :) Sometimes I want to start up a blog to introduce people to RP in a non-elitist way.
To touch on another RP thing that you commented on, I too had no interest in rolling an orc when I first started playing WoW. They looked like monsters to me. I didn’t even want to play a tauren, but that’s what I ended up with as my main because I wanted to play a druid and my real life friends played on the Horde side of things.
Now I have toons of all available Horde races, including orcs. What changed my opinion on them was learning about their lore and history. Reading “Rise of the Horde” really made me fall in love with the “noble savage” aspect of orcs and I love the fact that orcish women are just as formidable as the men. I don’t play an orc because she’s pretty, I play one because I think orcish culture is interesting. Also, she looks ridiculously badass with a battle axe, which is kind of sexy in its own way.
I’ve always been a big fantasy geek, and I really like that all of the Horde races take a different spin on “typical” fantasy themes. Makes for some very interesting storytelling.
Okay, I’ll stop junking up your blog with nerdy RP talk now. :)
June 12th, 2010
I tried to read some WoW lore… but I really didn’t like the writing. I thought it was the dreaded Kraak, but now my boyfriend is reading another book and he’s also less than impressed. So I’m afraid I’ll stay eternally clueless about the lore and continue to annoy my friends with questions like “Oh, so Uther isn’t Arthas’s father?”.
I love fantasy too, but I never read a lot of high fantasy except for Tolkien. Having ‘normal’ orcs (as opposed to bloodthirsty monsters) is pretty much normal to me… although I’ll always see the Alliance as ‘the good guys’. I do know what you mean about female orcs though – I feel the same about my tiny female warrior with 2 big axes :D